Prostate Massage - From a Partner's Perspective

Participating in the Prostate Massage ritual involves being free of inhibitions from both sides. When venturing into the prostate area, keep in mind that half the fun is getting there. You need to be comfortable with your partner. You can do this by yourself, but it's very nice to have assistance from a willing partner.

To begin, you will want to work your way up to the area with a bit of foreplay. Kissing and licking your partner, teasing with the tongue, making sure to lubricate the area well and not make any sudden moves. You can use your index finger or a toy (or your own penis!) that is made for such an occasion.

The prostate gland can be properly milked from outside of the body just by placing gentle massaging strokes in the area between the anus and the scrotum. But for the real deal and the most sensational orgasm that can come with a prostate massage, you really should consider manipulating things on the inside. You should not press too hard. Stick your finger in slowly and curve it downwards towards the scrotum area as if you are gesturing somebody to "come here". Pay attention to your partner as you are massaging to and from the prostate area.

Continue this massage for several minutes while things get heated. This will bring an orgasm or ejaculation from the prostate gland. Don't worry if you do not hit the nail on the head the first couple of times. The key thing to remember is to be gentle so that if you don't succeed the first time, your partner will be willing to let you try again.

How to Prepare for a Prostate Massage

Prostate massage is a healthy and pleasurable activity that can be enjoyed as part of your intimate life. Many men feel more comfortable receiving anal touch after they have prepared. Preparation can range from a simple shower to a complete internal rinse. This document will outline your options for preparation and suggest easy steps for maintaining hygiene while enjoying the pleasures and health benefits of prostate massage.

The minimum preparation for enjoying prostate stimulation is a regular bowel movement followed by complete external cleansing. Washing the external anal area with warm soap and water is often enough to allow you to feel at ease.

If you would like to rinse internally, you have a few easy options. A disposable bulb enema is quick and easy. Fill the bulb with plain warm water, gently insert the nozzle into your anus and squeeze the bulb, immediately allowing the water to rinse out. Repeat several times, or until the water runs clear. Never use hot or cold water- aim for wrist-temperature warm.

Larger enema bags are not required for prostate massage, and may cause discomfort. If you are interested in receiving a full colonic enema, it is recommended that you see a professional or do additional research before trying it at home. If you ever feel cramps or discomfort, stop your enema immediately and allow the water to pass.

When you feel sufficiently prepared, clean and ready for your prostate massage, begin gathering the supplies you will need. Vinyl or nitrile gloves are great for all kinds of erotic touch. They feel smooth and soft on sensitive skin, and when you are finished the gloves can be stripped and disposed of easily. Make sure you take the time to find gloves to fit the person giving the massage, as the touch will feel much better when the gloves fit taut against the skin.

Another essential tool for pleasurable prostate massage is lubricant. Water-based lubricants are now readily found in every major drugstore and even many supermarkets. Use plenty of lube, reapplying when needed. External and internal anal massage can be highly arousing, without a moment of discomfort. If you experience any pain at any point in the massage, slow down or stop. There is no need to endure anything.

If you and your partner are just beginning to explore prostate massage, take the time to communicate and share any excitement, questions or concerns. Learning more about the anatomy of the prostate and male sexual system may make you more comfortable with trying prostate massage. Education is excellent preparation for sharing new intimate acts, and allows you both to continue with more confidence.

Preparing for prostate massage can make this intimate exchange more pleasurable and allow you to relax deeper into the experience. Thorough cleansing prior to the massage will take your worries away, and proper hygiene including gloves and lubricant will make the experience more enjoyable for both you and your partner.

How to Give Your Partner a Prostate Massage

rostate massage, when performed on a regular basis, can be used as a preventative treatment against prostate cancer. It is good for prostate health in general, and can decrease the risk of prostate enlargement--that is, benign prostate hypertrophy (BPH). Prostate massage is also a form of sexual play. Whatever your reason may be, let’s say you would like to do prostate massage on your husband or partner. Here is how to go about doing it.

First of all, make sure he is okay with having a prostate massage. Let him know the procedure so that he understands what will happen. If he seems comfortable with it, then you can go ahead with it.

Keep your fingernails neat and trim. File off any jagged edges.

Ask your partner to urinate or do a bowel movement before having a massage. It is important that he should be as relaxed as possible. You may want to try a relaxation technique as well.

Clean your hands, use a sterile latex glove, and dab a bit of water-based lubricant on the glove’s fingertips. Then gently insert your fingers into his anus. Carefully push them inwards and upwards, against the rectal lining towards his front side. Move your fingers roughly the direction of his navel.

You do not have to push in too far, just a little more than an inch--about 3 cm. Then you will touch the prostate gland, a small round bulb of tissue about the size of a large walnut. Give it a gentle massage by rubbing it lightly along its sides. Do not press hard on the gland’s central portion, as that is where some sensitive nerves are located. Do not touch the prostate gland with your fingernails.

At some point, your partner may feel like he wants to urinate, even though he does not have to. That may feel somewhat confusing, but try to reassure him and, if he is okay with it, you can continue.

Your partner will become stimulated and may even ejaculate--but it is all right if ejaculation does not occur, as it doesn’t always happen.

And that is how you give your partner a prostate massage.